Do’s and Don’ts of Women in a Bad Relationship or when going through a Break Up

Written by Hopal Green

Date: January 24, 2020

1. Don’t tell his secrets- You may have built a trust in each other when it came to certain stuff. You and your partner may have discuss things that are personal to him or you. It’s not okay to tell his secrets or personal matters.

2. Trying to get over it by talking to another man- There are good men out there that will love you the right way but you have to be careful, not all of them have good intentions. You are hurting you need someone to care, if you meet the wrong man he will be all you will need and more for that time until his true ways come out. Some men are opportunists and seek after vulnerable females who probably just came out of a relationship or is struggling in a relationship. You are at your weakest and they will take advantage of you dear.

3. Never let anyone else decide for you- Let your decision be yours no one else’s, never let your friend, family or next potential lover decide for you. You know what you are going through. Its your decision to make.

4. You have been with your partner you know him best, you know what hurts him what makes him happy. Whatever he did to you whether cheating, abuse etc. it’s never okay to rub things in his face because you are about to move on or you have found better. The best revenge is silence and let your progress do the talking. 

5. Space is good- give yourself sometime to think about what happened and how you can avoid it happening again. Never be clouded by your emotions and feeling of want, you might just end up in the wrong hands if you allow yourself to be led by this.

6. Talk about it- If you can find a good confidant sure go ahead and talk about your situation, what you went through. Its okay to tell both sides of the story, get a second though however ensure at the ending of the day YOU made your decision.

7. If you need closure/unanswered questions- make it clear to you partner that you are an adult and you need to communicate. If it’s possible to talk to your partner ask him the things that trouble your thoughts the most, accept the answers and move forward.

8. If he is abusive physically or verbally- Never try to match up with him, seek help and ensure that you take the right steps.

9. Sometimes we stay in a relationship because of the money/children/ties but remember to not let out your anger on the children or let the fact that you are gaining from the relationship make you stay. That’s toxic and can ruin you slowly before you know it.

10. Its okay to give second chances but what is not okay is to allowing it continue over and over and over. Men get immune to seeing a female forgive so he will act right for the moment until he cant anymore. If he made changes its okay to see where things will go.

11. If he is someone you can speak to let him know where he went wrong so he can one day realize what issues he may need to work on.